High functioning autism and dating
1) Autistic people are often late bloomers when it comes to relationships.
Nick Dubin (author of Asperger’s and Anxiety and other self-help books) did not start dating until he was twenty five.
The easiest way to love someone on the spectrum is by learning to accept them.
Trying to change them will not be possible, even if they do change slightly they will be extremely unhappy on the inside and will be living a life that does not feel natural to them.
The autistic friends I have are actually way cuddlier than my neuro typical friends.
They can occasionally take this too far, as it’s difficult for them to understand social boundaries.
I love hugs and can be very affectionate when I’m in a relationship.
However, if I am experiencing a great deal or stress or anxiety I generally don’t want to be touched or held.
2) Not everyone on the spectrum has an aversion to touch. It’s true that while some people on the autism spectrum dislike physical contact or feel they need large amounts of personal space, that’s just not true of everyone.
As such, the man or women you care about is more likely to know his or her limitations. Accept that HFA people need love and understanding.
Individuals with HFA (despite what has been widely written) do have emotions.
I hate labels with a passion, so, I very rarely tell people about this diagnosis.
However, in not telling people, it has caused numerous problems as others have failed to understand me properly, and I them.